Society has a serious problem with objectivity. This is because every person perceives everything differently but it’s our job to reign that in before it we end up with racism, sexism, agism and a slew of other prejudices. Being objective is a good strategy for almost any situation, but you don’t want to suck all of the passion out of life. When we find ourselves in a situation, it’s important to attempt to hold some of the outsider’s perspective on our situation or else we can come across as looking a little silly. Perhaps the most perfect example I can give, is the fervently creepy love for cats online.
Many of us, myself included, possess a strong affinity for felines. However, this seems to be one of those affections that often goes unchecked while the person’s grasp on reality becomes ever more tenuous. Inevitably, some of these people will spiral into a disturbing mindset that requires them to spend several unblinking hours defending their cat love at their job while having sobbing conversations about work to their pets once they return home. Cats can make wonderful companions, but there are too many people that view all cats as whimsically cute and cuddly creatures. You can usually recognize these people by the awful names they give their pets (like Miss Constance Wildflower) and how frequently it causes you to roll your eyes. They’ve lost all of their objective powers and do not see the animal for what it really is. Pound for pound, cats are one of the most perfect killing machines currently walking around on planet earth. They should have standard human names, like Burt, or awesome names that showcase their insatiable blood-lust. When kittens grab onto your arm and kick you with their back legs, they aren’t making an attempt at cuteness. They are practicing disemboweling prey or a future rival. Yet I have heard countless people witness a cat doing this and say “Isn’t that the cutest thing you’ve ever seen?”
My response usually goes something like, “Yes. I can’t think of anything more adorable than practicing a violent murder, and I am really trying over here.”
If we were like most other mammals, we would think that cats were just about the scariest thing we could ever encounter. Even as humans we can just watch their behavior and get all the evidence needed to fully assess their sneaky, eerily sexual and violent nature, but we ignore it because they’ll cuddle up with us and we get to wake up to their darling little faces.
However, this kitty blindness is only the tip of the iceberg. It’s probably the softest and least dangerous example I could have given. Very few people are found in their apartments eaten by their cats every year, even thought it definitely does happen. There are so many more important things that we turn a blind eye to, fail to analyze correctly or just flat-out ignore because we’ve allowed our perspectives to become too narrow. Everyone is going to have prior experiences shape who they are and how they deal with the world but, unfortunately, this background can mitigate logical and productive mental processing. This is how one person can see something that seems perfectly obvious to them yet completely unfathomable to another person. Rich people have to suffer though this problem on a daily basis due to their immense wealth creating an uncommon reality that they are forced to live in. There are hero billionaires, like Warren Buffett, who somehow manage to see the big picture, hold onto their objectivity and better the world around them– but I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about the morons that make regular claims about how people who earn $250,000 a year really aren’t “wealthy.”
Of course they are, and that’s totally fine, but you can’t claim that you’re “just getting by” on an income that many of us could live comfortably on for several years. I crunched the numbers for myself and found that I could easily live on it while pursuing my dreams and still have enough left over to purchase a new wardrobe, throw some pretty extreme parties hosted by famous DJs, buy a new motorcycle and maybe rent a tiger to ride around on for a week. However, I get what the wealthy people mean when they explain that they they only have enough money to pay the bills. If you purchase a large home in an affluent area, buy a couple of fancy German cars, put two children through a good college, eat all the best foods and take a couple of nice vacations, you’ll only have enough money to get you through that year. You’ll barely have enough left over to afford the extravagant holiday shopping, pay for your mistress to choke you and invest the remnants into the stock market.
Really, though, it doesn’t matter if you’re making fifteen-thousand or fifteen-million every single year. You are probably never going to feel like it’s enough but you will always feel entitled to every penny of it and get defensive if someone even suggests that you may not be. That really goes for everything. Our experience and situation shapes our perspective and, once we’re at a certain point, most of us sort of selfishly feel like we just know best, regardless of what is actually best for the people whose lives we are effecting. This is why nobody wants to pay taxes and Tyler Perry keeps making movies. Everyone is sort of oblivious to the realities of life. I don’t want to blow your mind, but a lot of the most attractive actors and actresses are actually just regular ugly people who happened to have talent, famous parents, or some combination of the two.
We just don’t all have the same information, so it’s easy to miss something sort of important. Have you ever watched a couple flirting at a bar and noticed that one of them seemed sort of awful while the other didn’t seem to be aware of it? That’s because alcohol, desperation, ignorance or past experience has blocked their ability to be even slightly objective in the situation. The whole world functions on these almost invisible threads that create the web that supports society and we have to peer through a pretty heavy fog to see the realities directly in front of us. It’s all pretty amazing if you stop to think about it.